November 22, 2017

Too Many Yeses? It’s Time for No

Have you ever said yes but what you really wanted to say was no? How did that feel? Stuart’s ex called him weekly with one problem or another. The furnace was making a funny sound, the satellite TV stopped working, the window screens weren’t where they were supposed to be. He inevitably ended up back […]

Dating, Sex, and How to Say No

When it comes to reasons people give for why they had sex early in a relationship even though they did not want to, I’ve heard things like the following way too many times: > “I didn’t want him to stop liking me.”> “I figured she’d think something was wrong with me.”> “I thought we were […]

Speak Up—The Truth is in There

All the giving-in, all the compromising in her relationship with Tom came from Jane. Pretty soon, no matter how absurd Tom’s whims, or how uncomfortable for her, Jane was saying “yes” to everything. Her fear that he’d walk out made her want to buy his loyalty with silence and acquiescence. In other words, since Jane […]