July 20, 2017

Being Present

I was going along okay, or so I thought, when a cold slammed into me and suddenly I was stopped short. A client of mine told me his lower lip erupted in a cold sore exactly three hours before he had to give a huge speech to 500 people and that his face (with the […]

Shifting out of Loneliness: The Nuance of Solitude (Part II)

Human beings are social creatures. Our need to belong is not just a factor of our socialization—it’s encoded in our DNA! As the 17th century poet John Donne wrote so profoundly: “No man is an island / entire of itself.” All of us fall on a continuum of how social we are, depending on how […]

Hostage or Free? Codependency Revisited

Codependency has gotten some press in recent years. Which is a very good thing because it drags into the light of day a dangerous and fairly common relationship pattern that can hold people hostage for years. If ignored, codependency can do grave damage. I worry that people sometimes hear “codependent” and brush it off— yeah, […]