August 17, 2017

How to Find the Silver Lining When a Relationship Does Not Go as Planned

It’s a cliché, for sure, the old saying about how every cloud has a silver lining. But often clichés are truths that have simply been spoken by many wise people for many years. This year, we want to take that ol’ dud-relationship cloud and turn it inside out so the lining will be visible in […]

Seek CLARITY about You and Your Relationship Goals

Knowing what you don’t want will only take you so far. But how do we shift from thinking in the negative to thinking in the positive—with the confidence to know who we are and what we want out of life? Samuel had been in several not-right relationships. Probably about 5 by the time he was […]

How a Painful Breakup Can Lead to Personal Growth

Don’t kid yourself.  Breaking up can be brutally difficult.  In many cases, it is akin to losing someone to death.  The loss is complete.  Ties severed.  Someone who once filled your life and heart is now gone. Don’t pretend “it’s okay” when it’s not.  Let yourself experience it, in whatever way is right for you. […]

Asking for What You Need – Why You Should and Why It’s Hard

We are born fully programmed to ask for, and receive, what we need.  A baby just minutes old will turn its head expectantly, assuming its biological need for sustenance will be met promptly.  If it isn’t, the baby cries, and mama puts the little wiggleworm to her breast.  Feedback loop complete.  Easy, right? Well, yes, […]

Are You Dating a Selfish Person?

Feeling a little invisible in your relationship?  Wondering why your date’s version of give and take has a lot more take than give (which leaves you making up the difference)?  Maybe you need to assess how you show up in your relationship, and whether you are looking out for yourself enough.  On the other hand, […]

First Impressions

Have you ever read the first page of a book in a bookstore (if you still buy books that way, that is!) and decided not to buy it?  It might have been a really great book, but you didn’t want to take the chance and spend the time to read 50 pages.  It takes at […]

Live together or Marry? 21st Century Options

A mere 50 years ago (which isn’t that long, really) everything was very different.  There was still a huge stigma on couples who chose to live together “out of wedlock” as it was called, and parents whose children did so white-knuckled the social embarrassment until they could finally send out those wedding announcements.  Aside from […]

Can long distance relationships last?

Long-distance relationships have been around for a long time.  At one time in history separation by ten miles would constitute a long-distance relationship and contact would be done via handwritten letters.  Much of the courtship between poets Elizabeth Barrett Browning and Robert Browning was conducted via love letters, which are wonderful to read!  They fell […]

“Going Steady” — Are You Ready to be Exclusive?

At one time, in our culture, “going steady” was the term for a commitment to an exclusive relationship without the finality of a marriage contract.  Whether you “wore his pin” or “gave her your ring” – usually high school – going steady was a statement.  We may not call it that any more, but deciding […]

The ABCs of Your Dating Code

Why do you need to know your dating code?  A code is an internal radar system that helps you navigate the dating waters so you can find a meaningful relationship.  You need to know what to look for, and what to look out for.  Your code, quite simply, helps you get what you want and […]