September 26, 2017

What Are You Afraid Of?—Debunking the Top 5 Dating Myths

The stories people tell each other, and themselves, have always had great power. Throughout history, the myths and legends passed down through generations have guided the behaviors and thoughts of countless people. Our cultural myths are how we learn right from wrong. They teach us how to operate, what to think, hope for, imagine, and […]

How to Change Your Dating Experience for the Better

By the time Dave came to me for help, he was convinced that loneliness and disappointment were his destiny. He was deeply demoralized. So much so that he was determined to prove me wrong when I told him there was a way to turn things around and find dating success. I asked him, “Do you […]

Write What You Want — Online Dating Profiles and the Relationship Checklist

A colleague recently mentioned his experience with online dating checklists—you know, where you have to convey your dating requirements or “must haves.” We agreed that some of the lists people are making on dating sites are—pardon me—ridiculous. Mostly because they are naïve, careless, or shallow. We’ve seen it all, from blatant stereotypes—such as blanket claims […]

The Art of Re-framing Your Beliefs

On paper, Naomi had a lot going for her. Smart and well-educated, a college professor, Naomi has a quick wit. She made me laugh the first time we met. She is tall and athletic, attractive and, when she wants to be, quite stylish. Her best friend talked her into hiring me as a dating coach. […]

So, Why Are You Still Single?

A loaded question with a number of equally loaded answers. First of all, are you single and loving it, or single and searching? To help navigate the endless nosy versions of the question, “So, why are you still single?” you need to decide into which camp you fall. But more about that later. Congratulations, first […]

Priority or Option? What’s Your Relationship Rank?

Diana had been dating Axel for several months, but she still did not really feel very secure about where she stood in the relationship. Axel rarely answered texts, and never picked up the phone when Diana called. He’d text her, though, when he was ready to get together, often at the very last minute. And […]

The Art of Being in Sync

Synchronicity. When two things—or in our case, people—work in perfect rhythm with each other. When you are synced with your partner you are fully present with that person – mind, body, spirit. ✓  You can walk side by side—somehow your footsteps match up… even though he’s 5 inches taller. ✓  You can finish each other’s […]

5 Great Holiday Dates

The holidays are a great time to either reach out to someone you’ve been wanting to ask out, or to step things up with someone you really like. It’s true, people are busy at this time of year, and spending lots of time with family, but the jolly mood, the time off from work, the […]

Toxic Relationships – What Are They and What Can Be Done?

David had been with Suzanne for so long that he forgot what it felt like to just feel good, or even okay, on a daily basis. He was in a toxic relationship but did not realize it. It was affecting his mental and emotional well-being. But he loved Suzanne – how could she be toxic? […]

One in 7 Billion? The Truth about Soul Mates

The “soul mate” ideal harks back centuries. Anyone who has been deeply in love understands that feeling of inevitability that comes with an intense joining. There are two concepts that address this idealized form of love—soul mate and twin flame. Even if you have never seen the movie, Jerry Maguire, you are probably familiar with […]