November 23, 2017

The Pleasure of Your Company: Get Your Groove Back

“She entered her house and turned back to me for one last kiss, and to say, ‘I can’t imagine a better way to spend a Sunday than with you. Thank you for today.’” That’s the way my client, Nathaniel, ended his “perfect day” narrative. His story, written as “homework” between one of our sessions and […]

Red Flags: When a First Date Is a Last Date

Yay! You’ve made a connection on Match, Our Time, Bumble, or eHarmony. You are ready to meet. So much of that first date is going to be about the “indefinable” – the stuff you can’t really put into words. But believe me, there are some very good words to describe a terrific first date, from […]

Avoid “Bad Date Syndrome:” Easy Steps for Turning Bad to Good

You’ve been chatting online for over a week with someone who seems pretty great so far. It’s time to meet face to face. You make a plan to meet for coffee at a trendy coffee spot, put on the sweater that perfectly complements your eyes, and head out full of hope and expectations. Maybe it’s […]

Reset Your Dating Mojo in 10 Easy Steps

Feeling frustrated with dating? Are you bored, and see dating more as “rigmarole” than tons of fun? If you are disenchanted with the process of dating—it’s time to recalibrate your mojo. Don’t be like Ava, a client of mine who got “date rage” whenever things went “too slow” for her. Remember dating is a p […]

Hot or Not? How Important is Physical Chemistry?

When Tim and Marlene went through a rough patch in their marriage they were both worried they might not make it. They had grown apart in some ways, and had different ideas about what came next for them, now that the kids were grown. But they tell the story about how it was their chemistry […]

6 Great Reasons to Date An Outdoor Enthusiast

My friend Jill is a city girl through and through, born and raised in Chicago. But when she was a graduate student at Carnegie Mellon she fell in love with a nature buff who spent lots of time hiking, canoeing, cross country skiing. When they first met, Don lived in the boonies an hour from […]

Permission to Feel and a Chance to Heal: 5 Tips for Healing After a Breakup

Do you know… ∗  Someone like Norman? Within two weeks of his live-in girlfriend’s leaving him, he was making a profile on eHarmony. He said he wanted to “move on” and prove to himself (and his ex) that he’d be okay. He was not okay. At least not yet. ∗  Someone like Janelle? When her […]

First Date DOs and DON’Ts

All first dates have one thing in common. They are the first. Obvious, sure, but it is that fact of being first that will inform and guide you through it. It’s a first impression and a first step. A first foray into what might turn into something wonderful. So let’s go through some basics to […]

Question: Can you advise me how to proceed on a third date with a girl that makes me butterfly nervous?

Dear Betty, I am at the very beginning of a new relationship and need advice. Here are the details: I’m 48 and she is 47. We both have kids – I have a son in college and she has two teenage sons. We used to work together and have known each other for five years. […]

Set Your Dating GPS

You have two weeks for the ultimate road trip. You know you want to end up in Santa Barbara, visiting your old college friend and soaking in the Southern California groove. You are starting from San Francisco, with a rental car, a cooler full of iced tea, Fig Newtons, and grapes, and a GPS. You’ve […]