November 21, 2017

Flirting: 9 Basic Guidelines for the Mature Single

As she walked out of her neighborhood coffee place, Melissa was surprised when she suddenly realized she’d been flirting! There was a nice man in line ahead of her and it just…happened. Later she told me about it, “It just happened!” She went on to confide, “The biggest shock was realizing how attractive he found […]

Emotional Intimacy – Part One of a Great Relationship

The key to any successful relationship is genuine attachment.  Obviously you have a different relationship with a housemate or friend than you do with your lover.  No matter how close a friend a housemate is, the attachment of a lover is bound to be deeper.  It is based on full understanding which leads to a […]

How a Painful Breakup Can Lead to Personal Growth

Don’t kid yourself.  Breaking up can be brutally difficult.  In many cases, it is akin to losing someone to death.  The loss is complete.  Ties severed.  Someone who once filled your life and heart is now gone. Don’t pretend “it’s okay” when it’s not.  Let yourself experience it, in whatever way is right for you. […]

Thanks, but No Thanks: A Vital Life Skill

Some people find it easy to say no.  You know those people?  Maybe you are one of those people.  But if you are one of the millions of others – those who struggle mightily with that simple word – you may be both envious and awestruck by those who can just say no.  For so […]

Asking for What You Need – Why You Should and Why It’s Hard

We are born fully programmed to ask for, and receive, what we need.  A baby just minutes old will turn its head expectantly, assuming its biological need for sustenance will be met promptly.  If it isn’t, the baby cries, and mama puts the little wiggleworm to her breast.  Feedback loop complete.  Easy, right? Well, yes, […]

Are You Dating a Selfish Person?

Feeling a little invisible in your relationship?  Wondering why your date’s version of give and take has a lot more take than give (which leaves you making up the difference)?  Maybe you need to assess how you show up in your relationship, and whether you are looking out for yourself enough.  On the other hand, […]

First Impressions

Have you ever read the first page of a book in a bookstore (if you still buy books that way, that is!) and decided not to buy it?  It might have been a really great book, but you didn’t want to take the chance and spend the time to read 50 pages.  It takes at […]

Live together or Marry? 21st Century Options

A mere 50 years ago (which isn’t that long, really) everything was very different.  There was still a huge stigma on couples who chose to live together “out of wedlock” as it was called, and parents whose children did so white-knuckled the social embarrassment until they could finally send out those wedding announcements.  Aside from […]

Going Offline to Get On Track

You have read an appealing profile on a dating site and you like the pictures. There was enough promise that you sent a message. After some interesting banter, you’ve set a meeting at a convenient location. So far, all your communication with this person has been online. Face to face is going to be different. […]

8 Steps to Making the First Contact

We make contact with new people all the time – through friends, at work, at the gym – just about everywhere. But when it comes to dating, singles can find making the first contact very challenging. Here’s a scenario: You’re all dressed up, feeling confident and arriving at a social event. Your attention is caught […]