September 26, 2017

Red Flags: When a First Date Is a Last Date

Yay! You’ve made a connection on Match, Our Time, Bumble, or eHarmony. You are ready to meet. So much of that first date is going to be about the “indefinable” – the stuff you can’t really put into words. But believe me, there are some very good words to describe a terrific first date, from […]

Self-Acceptance: Step One on the Path to Empowerment and Love

Marvin’s relationships never lasted. Even if they did, they were a series of unacceptable compromises and fraught with dissatisfaction. He could not, he said, find real love, the kind that transported a person and created a cocoon of unconditional acceptance. Upon further questioning, it became clear to me that Marvin was actually afraid of that […]

Focus on the Connection, not the Outcome

Today—this moment—is a given. You know it’s real because it is happening. You can understand what it means to you. You can see its value and cherish the feelings it evokes. What will happen tomorrow, or next week, or ten years from now is not so definite. If you don’t learn the lessons of today, […]

Emotional Intimacy – Part One of a Great Relationship

The key to any successful relationship is genuine attachment.  Obviously you have a different relationship with a housemate or friend than you do with your lover.  No matter how close a friend a housemate is, the attachment of a lover is bound to be deeper.  It is based on full understanding which leads to a […]