September 25, 2017

First Date DOs and DON’Ts

All first dates have one thing in common. They are the first. Obvious, sure, but it is that fact of being first that will inform and guide you through it. It’s a first impression and a first step. A first foray into what might turn into something wonderful. So let’s go through some basics to […]

Being Alone vs Being Lonely: The Nuance of Solitude (Part I)

Jennifer’s divorce hadn’t been final for more than a month when she called me up asking about matchmaking services. As we talked, I soon understood what was going on—a common story. She finally admitted:  “I’m lonely, I want someone to fill the void David left behind.” When I heard that I knew it was a […]

Springing into Love—How to Know if You Are Ready for a New Relationship

Many people experience some special feelings in the spring. After the long dark months of winter—especially if you lived in a part of the world that got hit hard with cold, snow, and relentless wind chills—you may experience early spring giddiness. That lightness that enters your body somewhere beneath your ribs and gives you a […]

Who Makes the First Move?

Last week I served as an expert panelist for The Great Love Debate in Nashville, TN. A crowd of men and women filled the room with one thing on their minds: why are they still single? I was there to help them and answer questions, but as always in my job, I managed to learn […]

So, Why Are You Still Single?

A loaded question with a number of equally loaded answers. First of all, are you single and loving it, or single and searching? To help navigate the endless nosy versions of the question, “So, why are you still single?” you need to decide into which camp you fall. But more about that later. Congratulations, first […]

Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence PART 2 – How to improve Self-confidence

Last week I talked to you about self-esteem, a fundamental internal navigational system that, when it is working well, allows you to love and accept yourself (Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence PART I – How to Improve Self-esteem). Healthy self-esteem is often present in self-confident people, but not always. You can be confident in certain arenas – […]

Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence PART I – How to Improve Self-esteem

A dynamic, brilliant musician or actor exudes self-confidence on stage. A supremely gifted athlete seems innately imbued with confidence. And then we see one of these icons of self-assurance in the tabloids – in an abusive relationship or struggling with addiction. Does this seem paradoxical? Isn’t self-confidence the same thing as self-esteem… so how could […]

Toxic Relationships – What Are They and What Can Be Done?

David had been with Suzanne for so long that he forgot what it felt like to just feel good, or even okay, on a daily basis. He was in a toxic relationship but did not realize it. It was affecting his mental and emotional well-being. But he loved Suzanne – how could she be toxic? […]

Loss of Self: Love Doesn’t Mean You Have to Disappear

My client, Alexandrea, has a story that speaks to a not uncommon relationship problem. Read it, and see if it rings any bells for you. Alexandrea knows she has a lot of love to give. She longs for a relationship that fulfills her and to which she can give her all. In her pursuit of […]

Physical Intimacy – Part 2 of a Great Relationship

Intimacy is one of those concepts that has almost as many definitions as there are people to have opinions about it. Some people think “feelings” when they think about intimacy, and they find it easy to achieve emotional intimacy with others. They are not afraid of feeling vulnerable or else they enjoy the rewards of […]