November 21, 2017

Key Elements of Trust

Some people are more trusting than others. Some are more trustworthy. But once trust is broken, it is not easy to rebuild (though not impossible in many cases). There is more than one way to breach trust.  ° Lara was never sure when Paul would be kind and supportive or when he’d berate her cruelly for […]

Relationship Lessons from the Not-So-Crazy Cat Lady

Animal lovers usually enjoy projecting human motives and traits onto their pets. We pretend we know what they’re thinking—in human terms. Although our cats, dogs, parrots, horses, and guinea pigs are probably chuckling quietly whenever we do that, there is still much to learn—as humans—from the animal world. Animals don’t second guess themselves. They live […]

Step By Step: Effective Online Communications in the Dating World

You’re making progress… ♥  Dating profile. Check. ♥  Unique user name. Check. ♥  “Had me at hello” headline. Check. ♥  Fabulous (and honest) photos. Check. ♥  Clear (and honest) “what you’re looking for in a partner.” Check. ♥  Well-written (and proofread) “about me.” Check. Okay, so all that hard work is done. Congrats! What’s next? […]

Balance of Power vs. Control – How to Share Power in a Relationship

“I’m not the one who’s a control freak,” squawked my friend Allison. She was calling for a debriefing about a month into a new relationship. She wouldn’t let any of her friends wear white after Labor Day, but she said that compared to Patrick, she’s the definition of mellow. Apparently Patrick used a powerfully shriveling […]

The Art of Being in Sync

Synchronicity. When two things—or in our case, people—work in perfect rhythm with each other. When you are synced with your partner you are fully present with that person – mind, body, spirit. ✓  You can walk side by side—somehow your footsteps match up… even though he’s 5 inches taller. ✓  You can finish each other’s […]

5 Great Holiday Dates

The holidays are a great time to either reach out to someone you’ve been wanting to ask out, or to step things up with someone you really like. It’s true, people are busy at this time of year, and spending lots of time with family, but the jolly mood, the time off from work, the […]

Toxic Relationships – What Are They and What Can Be Done?

David had been with Suzanne for so long that he forgot what it felt like to just feel good, or even okay, on a daily basis. He was in a toxic relationship but did not realize it. It was affecting his mental and emotional well-being. But he loved Suzanne – how could she be toxic? […]

Emotional Intimacy – Part One of a Great Relationship

The key to any successful relationship is genuine attachment.  Obviously you have a different relationship with a housemate or friend than you do with your lover.  No matter how close a friend a housemate is, the attachment of a lover is bound to be deeper.  It is based on full understanding which leads to a […]

Take a Deep Breath: How to Detect and Cope with Lies

Lying is believing or knowing one thing while intending to communicate another.  As painful as it is to be lied to, a certain amount of empathy is important when dealing with liars who typically are acting out of fear or low self-esteem. Often, fear and low self-image are also responsible for the very actions about […]

Honestly? Telling Lies Hurts (Everybody)

People lie constantly.  Especially if you include in your tally the most common lie of all:  “I’m fine.”  As much of a social lubricant as this lie is, it represents an essential fact.  People don’t want to reveal… too much. We learn to lie in childhood.  Saying “sorry” when we are not, saying what others […]