November 21, 2017

Flirting: 9 Basic Guidelines for the Mature Single

As she walked out of her neighborhood coffee place, Melissa was surprised when she suddenly realized she’d been flirting! There was a nice man in line ahead of her and it just…happened. Later she told me about it, “It just happened!” She went on to confide, “The biggest shock was realizing how attractive he found […]

Who Makes the First Move?

Last week I served as an expert panelist for The Great Love Debate in Nashville, TN. A crowd of men and women filled the room with one thing on their minds: why are they still single? I was there to help them and answer questions, but as always in my job, I managed to learn […]

The Art of Being in Sync

Synchronicity. When two things—or in our case, people—work in perfect rhythm with each other. When you are synced with your partner you are fully present with that person – mind, body, spirit. ✓  You can walk side by side—somehow your footsteps match up… even though he’s 5 inches taller. ✓  You can finish each other’s […]

Physical Intimacy – Part 2 of a Great Relationship

Intimacy is one of those concepts that has almost as many definitions as there are people to have opinions about it. Some people think “feelings” when they think about intimacy, and they find it easy to achieve emotional intimacy with others. They are not afraid of feeling vulnerable or else they enjoy the rewards of […]

Take a Deep Breath: How to Detect and Cope with Lies

Lying is believing or knowing one thing while intending to communicate another.  As painful as it is to be lied to, a certain amount of empathy is important when dealing with liars who typically are acting out of fear or low self-esteem. Often, fear and low self-image are also responsible for the very actions about […]

First Impressions

Have you ever read the first page of a book in a bookstore (if you still buy books that way, that is!) and decided not to buy it?  It might have been a really great book, but you didn’t want to take the chance and spend the time to read 50 pages.  It takes at […]

Live together or Marry? 21st Century Options

A mere 50 years ago (which isn’t that long, really) everything was very different.  There was still a huge stigma on couples who chose to live together “out of wedlock” as it was called, and parents whose children did so white-knuckled the social embarrassment until they could finally send out those wedding announcements.  Aside from […]

Get Your Flirt On

Flirting is as much a way of being as it is a way of doing. Three parts mindset; one part action. What’s lessons can we learn from a grade-A flirt? He or she is open and receptive, generous and giving, and a little vulnerable. And remember, it takes confidence to be vulnerable…. Flirting is all […]

The Art of First Date Conversation

It’s time to meet. You met someone online, but now you want to take the next step. You have followed all the safety criteria: Agreed to meet in a neutral, public place that does not demand a lengthy time commitment (e.g. a coffee shop rather than a French restaurant) Told your family and friends where […]

Do You Speak Body Language?

Somewhere along the line, psychologists figured out that there was this thing they called “body language”—a non-verbal form of communication that your body knows all about, and that you probably don’t. You “speak” body language all the time without thinking about it, knowing it or having any idea of what the heck you are saying […]