October 17, 2017

Receive Graciously

“To graciously receive is an expression of the dignity of giving.” Deepak Chopra The spirit of Christmas—giving. Yet for us to give, someone must receive. The joy of giving depends on it. I was thinking about writing a blog this week for readers who find themselves not in a relationship right now. People who may […]

New Relationship? New Holiday Traditions

The holiday season is one of sensory stimulation, excitement, stress, a range of emotions, traditions, and memories. Our memories can provide solace but also sadness, especially if they remind us of past relationships that did not work out. Rather than go all Grinchy Scrooge on the holidays, realize that there are always new traditions to […]

Too Many Yeses? It’s Time for No

Have you ever said yes but what you really wanted to say was no? How did that feel? Stuart’s ex called him weekly with one problem or another. The furnace was making a funny sound, the satellite TV stopped working, the window screens weren’t where they were supposed to be. He inevitably ended up back […]

Making Space in Your Life for the Right Person

Make room for love and it always comes. Make a nest for love and it always settles. Make a home for the beloved and he will find his way there. – Marianne Williamson When you think about finding love, do you ever think about what love will find when it gets to you? Will it […]

Should I Stay or Should I Go: What’s Your Tipping Point?

Relationships, even the best of them, require care and attention. If you are in a relationship and like most people, you have had to work on things. It’s like keeping your body healthy. You can’t ignore it and expect it to be in top form. But, if you’ve been in triage mode for a long […]

It’s Really Over: 7 Steps Towards Acceptance

We don’t have to accept everything that happens to us. Sometimes we need to resist, make change, or fight for what we believe. But when it comes to the end of a relationship—acceptance is really the only good option. Anything else is torture, and ultimately prevents life from moving on. I’ve seen clients struggle with […]

Interdependence vs. Codependence—It’s Okay to Have Needs

Kimia had been in several relationships that started out well, but eventually did not fulfill her. She invariably ended up feeling taken advantage of, and that her boyfriends did not really care deeply for her. I asked her, “Do you think you made it clear to them that you won’t tolerate disrespectful behavior and that […]

Avoid “Bad Date Syndrome:” Easy Steps for Turning Bad to Good

You’ve been chatting online for over a week with someone who seems pretty great so far. It’s time to meet face to face. You make a plan to meet for coffee at a trendy coffee spot, put on the sweater that perfectly complements your eyes, and head out full of hope and expectations. Maybe it’s […]